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ATTENTION!!! LET US GATHER FOR SOME BEST FRIEND CHECK-UP

 HI!

WHOA!!! It’s hot in here.


The hour has come upon us to check in with the gorgeous, powerful best friend.

Damn! Twenties are so real, being independent is the main problem this time. I can do anything and the past has proven that even the very thing that disarms me, I can face, deal with and overcome. But I don’t always want to be strong, I don’t always want to deal with, I want to have fun, I want to be calm every day; not because I have to be a bigger person, but because life is amazing. A thought of this desire not being a reality makes me sad.

Wouldn’t you agree teenage years are/were the most chilled with an exception to loss of course? We didn’t have to face and deal with E-V-E-R-Y-T-H-I-N-G. Grateful for the 100% support I received back then. I wish I could go back to immerse myself a little bit more in all of it. I’ve always been a big spoony, this time I’d be a little spoony as i I should have.

As an independent 24-year-old girl I am leaning that best friend check-ups are very crucial. Best friend #1 = self. Below am going to share my mood fluctuations, causes, scheduling the checkups and incorporating self-care as I honor each appointment.😌 

Mood fluctuations


I can almost say I’ve experience 70% of all negative emotions in just one week, actually less than a week to be realistic. The truth is in a day. That was a week before last. Work was challenging, physically I was drained, my mind was negative as a result which made me miss home. I didn’t want to interact at all. But I am a teacher so I had to pretend so I can get work done and lastly make a positive impact. Pretending "I got this" normally drives me to actually feeling like "I do"! There’s a quote I put up at the door of my cardboard at work, it says “even on your worst days you are still some child’s best hope”. It keeps me going.

Most times I feel at peace; every day I am thankful, even when I feel stressed, or lost like today. What’s certainly normal in this life I've realised is change. My emotions change, they definitely fluctuate. A week or two before my 24th birthday i made this quote:

I mentioned I am currently feeling lost. I remember one time at varsity I texted my best friend “ I feel sad, I feel down and I don’t know why.” His reply was “there is a reason, calm down for now you will find it.” He was right! It's not all the times where I feel this way and understand immediately the reason.

I was so thrilled the moment I received confirmation of my purpose in life. I was 20 or 21 years old. Listen, I just knew I was going to kill it because I had already started. That is being a problem solver in a life, mine and other's. I think the right way to explain it is using the word helper instead of a problem solver 🤔. Easy breezy right? Not always, but delightful? Yes! Partnering with God is the most beautiful thing in the world. I should just remember on days like today He is partnering with me in my life even now.

Sometimes I just don’t want to think, I don’t want to find the cause immediately. I just rest on a challenge while I focus on the other areas I cannot ignore 😝.  20's are actually causing me to truly love this response, the current age actually. It is natural for me to solve a problem, so at the right time: when I get ready I face and deal. No more pressure,especially not from me. Please, and thank you!💝

Reflections happen all the times for me but dropping everything and being intentional is what always counts. I need time for things to register in my mind so I can respond accountably. Setting time for self is important so the real check-up can take place. I go for my medical check-ups often and let me tell you something, I love it when my rheumatologists take their time on me because That's when I am really taken care of. I love doctor's and nurses hands, hands filled with care, at least my doctors' and nurses'. Today after work I will sit down and develop a schedule for my best friend check-ups. This has to take place at least once a week to be realistic. Perhaps Saturday mornings???  Contents of the schedule will be: specified days, self-care/ recovery  activity and amount of time spent on it. What makes this kind of appointment important is it being honored. 🤗

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